Transitioning from school to university/college is incredibly exciting, and no doubt you are going into it with some expectations! The ‘student experience’ you see on social media can leave you with high hopes for your newfound independence, social life and a big step towards an exciting career.
And while university/college usually starts with a bang with all of the Orientation Week/Freshers festivities, once the excitement settles and your new reality kicks in, what do you do if suddenly you feel like this new experience isn’t quite what you imagined?
In the age of social media, everyone only shows the ‘on top of the world’ moments, and so it’s hard not to feel like you are alone in your feelings during your first couple of ‘this is the pits’ moments.
So we’ve listed some of the many common emotions that might pop up, and we’ve asked our TalkCampus student community to give some honest feedback about riding the roller coaster of emotions during their first year.
The teaching style may take some adjusting to
University/college can often provide a more relaxed or informal style of teaching, which can take some adjusting to! Some of our TalkCampus community said that they found the amount of detailed material they received overwhelming, whereas others felt like the material they received often wasn’t detailed enough.
Adjusting to a new style of learning that usually demands a lot more self-directed study can take a while, but just know this is normal! Eventually you will get into the swing of things, so don’t let it knock your confidence too much.
“For me, I initially saw my degree as a continuation of what I was learning at high school, and I had an expectation that the teaching styles would be the same. When someone in my class asked me how I was getting on with our first assignment, I had no idea what they were talking about! I was used to being reminded constantly at high school of any upcoming assignments, instead our lecturer had barely mentioned anything - we were just expected to know. It knocked my confidence, I am used to feeling on top of things and in that moment I felt so underprepared!”
Your grades might initially take a knock – but don't panic!
With a different learning style comes a different grading style, and many students say that they struggled in their first year to keep up with the grades they received at school.
The good news is that, often the education staff will know this and are on hand to help you back on your feet. So don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for support!
“During high school my favorite thing was writing essays because I always did well with them! My first semester at uni was a different story. I struggled so much, I thought I would hand in a great assignment only to get a really average grade.
"It was really hard and I started to doubt myself, but by the third semester I started to have an understanding of where I was going wrong and what they were looking for. I also had to get over my fear of asking my tutors where I was going wrong!”
Little fish in a big pond effect
For many new university/college students, it’s likely that your new place of learning may be a little (or a lot!) bigger than your high school. You may have known all of your teachers personally, and this new style of teaching may feel less personal.
Maybe you were at the top of your class at your school, but now you are at a huge university/college campus where you feel like an average Joe.
It can be hard to not start doubting yourself, but remember that university/college are places where thousands of students come together from across the world globally, and many will be experiencing these same emotions. Try and reframe your thinking, and remind yourself that the big pond can be really exciting and filled with endless possibilities and a lot of room to grow!
‘I went to a very small school where I knew everyone, so when I started at a huge university I felt unsettled, out of my comfort zone and struggled to find my groove. Initially, I felt like there was no real human connection, there were so many people that I would run into once, and then never see again! But actually, everyone’s in the same boat looking to make friends and figure things out - which helped me feel more comfortable!’
Many students are struggling with the challenges of the new virtual medium, and it can be incredibly disappointing if you had different expectations for your university/college experience. Remember that this is temporary, and although your expectations may not have been met, find small ways to make the best of it. Try to keep in contact with your tutors, take part fully in your classes and make a list of things you would like to do once you’re back on campus!
For those of you that have moved away for university/college - it's a big transition whether you've come from the other side of the world or half an hour down the road. If you're suffering from homesickness, just remember you're definitely not the only one.
Feeling homesick is really normal, especially in the first few months of university/college. Those around you are probably feeling the burn too, but are just not forthcoming on sharing those feelings!
Although there are lots of ways you can distract yourself from the feeling, the most important tip we have is to let yourself feel what you’re feeling. Feeling homesick isn't a weakness, nor is it something to beat yourself up about. Missing home is something that affects most students – you'll only make the situation worse if you think of it as something to feel guilty about.
Look to start a conversation with any of those around you that have also moved away from home. You might find that if you are vulnerable with how you’re feeling, they will feel like they can open up to you too.
‘When studying abroad, I experienced homesickness for the first time. While I initially felt embarrassed, I realized that many other students felt the same way. Once I reached out, it was like a weight was lifted, and I could enjoy my time abroad more fully’.
Doubts about your course or degree
It’s not openly spoken about, but it’s incredibly common to experience existential dread when it comes to your studies. Doubts creep in - “Have I chosen the right degree?” “What can I even do with this?” “I don’t even like geography!”
Pause, take a big deep breath and know that you are not alone. Here are some quick tips from us for productively conquering your university/college course doubts:
Bring yourself back into the present
Remind yourself as to why you chose the course, what do you still like about it, and if there is something that’s currently happening to make you feel this way. Write it all down to help clear your head.
Your degree doesn’t lock you into your career!
It is estimated that only half of graduates get jobs that directly relate to their degrees! Your future employers don’t only look at the type of degree you have, but they will also recognize the plethora of other skills that you gain through study– people, time management skills, etc.
Remember you can always review your options
Talk to the student success team and see how they can support you. Sometimes all you need is a sounding board, or maybe there is another degree you can switch to.
Remember that no one has a stress-free university/college experience, and learning to cope with these challenges, academic or otherwise, is an important part of your experience. With each difficulty, think back to how you have dealt with difficult situations before.
Ask yourself, ‘What could I have done differently, and how can I deal with it better now?’ Whilst we cannot control every situation, or get the best outcome each time, it is how we deal with it and move forward that matters.
‘I did have doubts about my course in my first year and was unsure if it was right for me. During my second year, I made the effort to speak to my academic advisor who gave me some advice on choosing the right modules for me, which allowed me to make my academic career more suited to my interests.’
Remember that there will be times that you mess up, forget things last minute, or don’t understand something. But knowing why you messed up, learning to be on top of it, and asking “why?” is only going to make you more confident, resilient, and successful. Finding success is not a straight shot to the finish line, instead, it’s a roller coaster.
And finally, remember that university/college goes beyond those first few weeks. Your experience of the next few years won’t be determined solely by how many friends you make or how many books you’ve read in the first week. Take a breath, and remember it’s all part of the journey.